How Long Is *Too Long* without Sex While in a Relationship? There are ways that people can meet their needs and have a full life without having sex. I’ve never been a fan of the phrase “affair proof” your marriage, because a spouse could go above and beyond their responsibility in the marriage, including being sexually available — and their spouse could still choose to cheat. And that distance begins to chip away at all the things that give marriage richness and strength — vulnerability, friendship, shared joys, common ground. More than 60 percent of men and 42 percent of women took to masturbation for pleasure when they weren’t having…